Praise, motivation, and thanks

By William Seidman Do you like being praised? There are several different kinds of praise. Praise that’s broad (You always do a great job) has less meaning to most recipients than specific, targeted praise. (The book is selling well because of your contribution). When praise is general and not associated with a meaningful action, it loses authenticity and all sorts of bad things occur. When there is a discussion of a great social good or purpose and people don’t see themselves as making a significant contribution to the purpose, such praise, while appreciated, is mostly irrelevant. More effective than praise is a strong sense of meaningful, personal accomplishment. External praise becomes largely irrelevant than. “Thank you” is another thing altogether. It’s personal, it’s about the giver (I am grateful and I thank you) and, best-case scenario, it’s heartfelt and feels good.]]>